Tuesday, December 19, 2006

FEAR - Self Limiting Experiences

FEAR has more power than any other word in any language. When we examine the word—Fear, there are other words that hitch on for a ride like velcro—Afraid, Anxiety, Panic, Phobia, Anxious, Nervous, Shaky, Fearful, etc.

When you think of the word FEAR, what does it represent to you? There is nothing that one can't create a fear about. Anxieties or phobias include: insects or snakes; cats or dogs; flying in an airplane; driving a car; driving on highways; driving over bridges or down dark country roads; heights; claustrophobia; doctors and dentists; needles or pills; water or darkness; success and failure; accommodation or confrontation; rejection or abandonment; living or dying and on it goes. The question is: Are we fearful or are we just lacking the education and hands on knowledge for the circumstances.

One of the hardest things in life is conquering one's fears. Some people live their entire lives in fear avoiding the opportunity to move forward to living a happy life. The thought of being vulnerable and opening up seems greater than the absence of happiness. Those who have had a difficult childhood make the decision early in their lives to not ever be open—i.e. vulnerable. Those who have had their hearts crushed in a relationship sometimes decide to live alone without companionship and love because the pain they went through seems too great, if they are hurt again. Thus, fear made the decision for them.

Ralph Waldo Emerson, nineteenth-century philosopher and poet, said, "Do the thing you are afraid to do, and the death of fear is certain." Keeping this in mind, ask yourself these questions.

• How do I hold myself back from having what I truly want in life?
• What am I telling myself to continue this fear?
• What old memory is under the surface that triggers the fear?
• What do I truly want?
• What needs to be shifted in order to conquer these fears, anxieties or phobias?
• Where am I today and where do I want to be tomorrow?

As an inspirational and motivational Life Coach, working together one step at a time, and at your pace, we can eliminate and conquer your fears and you can start living the happy life that you were meant to live.

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